Man – I have a lot to say about what’s happening in our country these past few days. The most important thing to say though, is their names. The most important thing I can do is, listen.
I also want to say that as a white woman [who by the way, has a lot she wants to say], I’m going to choose to do my best to not say everything I’m thinking. Instead I’m going to listen. I’m going to listen to the Black voices on the news, on my social media feeds, and anywhere else I can hear Black voices. White people don’t have the right to drown out the Black voices and right now, one thing we can do to help, is to not make this about us(white people). We can be better allies to the Black community by; supporting Black businesses, educating fellow white people about what they can do better (this one is important – don’t expect Black people to just dole out free emotional labor when we can stand up and say something ourselves to correct somebody), make donations to Black organizations (like this one, or this one, or this one), V O T E. That was the longest run on sentence in history.
Start to unpack your own racial tendencies. The more uncomfortable you feel, the better. Make a conscious decision to notice, call out, and challenge racism when you see it. There are a lot of great resources available if you’re willing to do the research about unlearning racism. Trust me – I get it. It’s hard to admit or maybe you’re blinded by it, but white privilege is real. Need an example? Amaud Abrey was walking through new build homes. Just taking a look around. Something I’ve done many times, as we prepared to build our current home. My white teenage stepson, v a n d a l i z e d seventeen [yes – 17] of the new builds in our current neighborhood. The policeman sat at our dining room table with us and gave him a stern talking to while he compiled his report. His punishment? One year of probation. It’s our responsibility to figure that shit out and to be accountable for it. As a white woman with a young Black nephew, the fear of his future is undeniable. It C A N happen to him. I hope that by the time he is old enough to drive a car or walk to the store, it won’t be a crime to be Black. Or that “the crime” of being Black doesn’t warrant the death penalty.
The best quote I’ve read the past few days says “Something feels deeply disingenuous about white folks who travel to the other side of the world to help out Black people when they can’t even stand up & hold accountable the countless examples of state sanctioned violence against Black people in their own countries” – No White Saviors
What you can do right now is text “FLOYD” to 55156.